Being a people-pleaser is second nature to many people. We long to calm those around us, often at the expense of our own wants and needs. Unfortunately, people-pleasing is unhealthy. Overcoming people-pleasing can be done by changing a few habits. Here are 4 things a recovering people-pleaser should practice.

1. Remember your worth.

You were created differently from every other human. Overcoming people-pleasing starts with knowing your opinion and actions have worth and that your presence matters. By pleasing people at the expense of your own needs and desires, you’re forgetting that you are here for a reason.

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Apologizing is my automatic action when things go awry. My husband, however, insists on pointing out when things are not my fault. If you’re a people-pleaser too, the minute something goes wrong, you probably jump to apologize. Before words of apology trip from your lips, stop and look at the situation. If you are at fault, say you’re sorry. However, if you aren’t, save the apology for when you’re at fault.

3. Keep saying no. 

It is easy to say yes to everything. Overcoming people-pleasing involves understanding that you can say no and mean it. Saying no may be hard, but the more you say it, the more you understand how important it is to say.

4. Speak up.

People-pleasers like to agree with the masses. We are quiet, listening, waiting to agree with whatever decision is reached. Many times, I simply stayed quiet and agreed, even when I really didn’t like whatever the plans were. But I became bitter that I was putting effort into something I didn’t agree with. Overcoming people-pleasing involves learning to really use your voice—even if it means shouting to be heard.

It’s not easy to go against a nature that you’ve crafted to please everyone around you. Chances are, as you work on overcoming people-pleasing, you’ll fall into old patterns. I do—often. The best part is we get the grace of a new day to try all over again.

1.The first thing to do to overcome people-pleasing is to______________.

A express yourself

B be independent

C value yourself

D forget the reason

解析：选C。C细节理解题。根据第二段第二句“Overcoming people-pleasing starts with knowing your opinion and actions have worth and that your presence matters.”可知，要想克服讨好型人格，首先要知道你的观点和行动是有价值的，你的存在很重要，即要重视自己。故选C。

2.What can be put back into the “ ▲ ”?

A Refuse mistakes.

B Accept yourself.

C Don’t feel upset.

D Quit apologizing.

解析：选D。D段落大意题。根据第三段的关键词“Apologizing”以及最后三句可知，作者建议不要总是道歉。故选D。

3.What can we infer about the author from the text?

A She’s always saying no.

B She was a people-pleaser.

C She used to be a quiet person.

D She enjoys pleasing others.

解析：选B。B 推理判断题。根据第五段中的“People-pleasers like to agree with the masses”以及“Many times, I simply stayed quiet and agreed, even when I really didn’t like whatever the plans were.”可知，作者曾是讨好型人格。故选B。

4.Where may this text be taken from?

A A magazine.

B A novel.

C A guideline.

D An advertisement.

解析：选A。A推理判断题。本文作者向我们分享了改变讨好型人格需要改变的一些习惯，属于心理健康方面的内容，应该来自一份杂志。故选A。